![]() ![]() We have to already deal with struggling in a school setting (for some of us), forgetting our HW, our brain's natural desire for easier stimulation (maybe from video games), and already having a higher fear-of-failure / perfectionism. The reason that this is important in this subreddit, is that the tendency to jump from things we start to fail at to the comfortable things we feel good at comes way more easily to those with ADHD and is already a symptom itself. Even if you aren't a therapist, I'm sure you can look at your own life enough or from other people to extrapolate enough and fill in details I left out for the sake of brevity, since the explanation I provided isn't the full thing. Video games provide that distraction / passion to be good at something. This failure and challenge, however, doesn't fit the kids identity, and so they shy away from those things overtime. ![]() These failures contradict their history of perfectionism. They meet more people, some of which may be 'smarter' than they are, and then finally they might start to struggle and fail at things. The subjects they learn are not only more difficult but have way more depth to them, which challenge their perspective on what they think they know. In high school, the kids are faced with giants much bigger than themselves. Overtime, however, these inequalities start to phase out, and on top of that things start to get harder. This plays out a lot in grade school where there are huge developmental differences between children, and so they get put in the 'special' classes, seem way ahead of the peers, etc. From then on, they tend to do things that fit their identity, aka the things that fit the idea that they are smart. Kids are very impressionable, and so kids in turn make that their identity. So the idea is that, as a kid, you were told that you were smart. Whenever I see posts about it, its very common to see people talking about how they have fears a failure, they've tuned their smartness into video games or other hobbies that don't seem productive.Īnd lastly I'm posting it in this subreddit because it always seems to accompany ADHD pretty frequently, and I guess that's what the experts think too. The effect that I'm talking about is that like smart kid burnout syndrome that a lot of people talk about online, where you felt like as a kid you had so much potential and you were always told you were smart, and while you still are smart, you kinda feel 'burnt out' and don't actually do anything anymore. So I didn't realize that there was an actual explanation for this, and I know that this will change from person to person, but I guess in the psychology / therapy world there's a known phenomenon that causes this. ![]()
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